When Tiffany Tate put the wheels in motion to buy her first home, it felt like a win – until a date’s response stopped her cold. “If you buy that house, what’s a guy going to do for you?” he said. It was just after their first date, and just before what would be their last. Tiffany, then 29, had just ended a long-term relationship and moved from her home town of Winston-Salem to Charlotte for a new job at a career development center. She had just joined Match.com and was starting to dip her toe into the Charlotte dating scene. Her date, previously promising, was clearly struggling to understand why she would want a serious relationship if she was going to buy her own home. Tiffany was thrown. “I was like, ‘I don’t understand the question.’” With all the speculation over declining marital and birthrates in the US , a disconnect between men and women’s expectations of heterosexual relationships is coming into focus.…