Care and Feeding I wasn’t expecting that. Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Getty Images Plus. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column.  Have a question for Care and Feeding?  Submit it here . Dear Care and Feeding, My wife and I are expecting our first baby soon, and we’ve received unexpected pushback from my mother regarding the timing of her first visit. This will be the first grandchild on both sides. Both sets of grandparents live more than a six-hour flight away. From the start, we let everyone know that we want the first month to establish a routine and get comfortable as parents before having our families visit. My in-laws were not thrilled about this, but have come to accept it. My parents originally expressed support for whatever worked best for us when it came to parenting decisions and visits (including having my in-laws visit first).…