How to Do It Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Complexio/iStock/Getty Images Plus. Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question?   Send it to Stoya   and   Rich here.  (It’s anonymous!) Dear How to Do It, I’m a 41-year-old man. When I met my partner (35-year-old woman), we immediately connected on all levels from the start. Everything from activities to life goals to our sex life just seemed to click in spectacular fashion. I had been a couple years out of a divorce, and she had been a few years out of an abusive, all-consuming relationship, and we were both ready for something steady again. When we met, it was two months before the pandemic, and we resolved to make it exclusive mere days before everything shut down.…