If you enjoy the column below, please subscribe to my newsletter ! You'll get each new issue in your inbox for free. I love having new email friends. Let's open your letters! Dear Stephen, I’ve been invited to my cousin-in-law’s wedding and I do not want to go, but can’t find a way to get out. My husband is deceased and I love his family, but while this cousin and his fiancée have been authentically kind in their way, they can be naive and once insulted me deeply. The year my husband died, I went to an in-law family gathering on the other coast. The gathering was wonderful! [Editor’s Note: The story that followed was too identifiable to include here, but the gist is that this cousin and his fiancée were supposed to give her a ride back from the reunion, but ditched her in a rather immature way.] Now his mom wants to pay for my flight to attend his wedding since I declined (citing expense), but I’d rather send a gift than give vacation time to celebrate a couple that made a hellish experience and don’t care.…