How to Do It I don’t have a game plan. Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Wirestock/iStock/Getty Images Plus. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column.  Have a question?  Send it to Stoya and Rich here.  It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, A few months ago, I realized that I was nonbinary instead of a cis woman. Since then, a lot of aspects of my sexuality have come into question and been discovered (realizing certain kinks, for example). Recently, I have started to struggle with my attraction to men. I have always identified as bisexual, but sex with my husband has been leaving me dysphoric. I don’t feel like I can separate out my identity from the idea of having sex with men in general. I still feel attraction to men, but it’s very abstract now, and I can’t even self-insert into a typical masturbation fantasy. If I really push myself, I feel disconnected and strange.…