Below, Benoit Denizet-Lewis shares five key insights from his new book,  You’ve Changed: The Promise and Price of Self-Transformation . Denizet-Lewis is a contributing writer for  The New York Times Magazine , an associate professor at Emerson College, and a  New York Times  bestselling author. What’s the big idea? Can people really change? There’s the Instagram version of change. The TED Talk version. The version packaged by self-professed change agents eager to relieve you of your hard-earned money. But what does the real version—messy, partial, uncertain, sometimes humiliating, sometimes ineffable and seemingly miraculous—look like? The only honest way to tackle change is with humility riding shotgun and holding the map upside down. Listen to the audio version of this Book Bite—read by Denizet-Lewis himself—in the Next Big Idea app , or  buy the book . 1. Change has changed.…