1. "Not me, but my grandma. She met a wonderful Indonesian man. He cooked her all kinds of food, and she helped him with his English. His family sent her all kinds of beautiful gifts. He started pressuring her for marriage pretty fast, after three months, and my Grammy, being catholic and very religious, agreed. This was in the '60s, mind you. The day after they got married, they were flying to Indonesia for a honeymoon and to visit that guy's family. He had been snappy with her all day, but she assumed he was nervous about flying. She wanted to get something to eat, and his exact words were (and she told me this because she said she knew at that moment the marriage was a mistake), 'You don't need any food, pig.'" "It only got worse. When they arrived in Indonesia, his family started asking for money, and her husband said her money was now his and wrote a check for half of her savings.…