Care and Feeding Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by santol/iStock/Getty Images Plus. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column.  Have a question for Care and Feeding?  Submit it here . Dear Care and Feeding, A few weeks. ago, my husband arranged to take the kids on a day-out activity. The event had a fixed starting time, so they had to leave the house on time. On the day of, I was working outside in the polytunnel and my husband was in the house. He lost track of time, and when he finally did check, it was too late. Even if they had gotten in the car immediately, they wouldn’t have made it before the doors closed. The kids were upset, he was embarrassed, and he yelled at me in front of them for not telling him that it was time to go. Later after the kids were in bed, I told him it wasn’t fair to expect me to be in charge of his schedule. The trip was his plan, and he had been inside the whole time with clocks and his phone. He apologized for losing his cool and blaming me.…