Dear Abby advises a man who is conflicted trying to get back in touch with a previous partner while dealing with the emotional and physical stress of caring for his ailing wife. DEAR ABBY: I’m a man younger than my age married to a woman who is older than hers. Ten years ago, we couldn’t get along, so we separated. While separated, I met a wonderful woman, “Cynthia.” We became friends with benefits and fell in love.  A year later, my wife got cancer. Since her family lived out of state and had lives of their own, I moved back in to take care of her. After eight years of battling her cancer, she has recovered. She can no longer drive or do heavy tasks and needs a walker. Mentally and physically, she’s not ready for a nursing home.  I ran into Cynthia a year ago and we became friends again. I explained how I was, for the time being, taking care of my wife and told her I looked forward to the time we could be together. For 12 years, I had sex with no one other than Cynthia.…