Good Job Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Seng kui Lim/Getty Images Plus.  Good Job   is Slate’s advice column on work. Have a workplace problem big or small?  Send it to Laura Helmuth and Doree Shafrir here . (It’s anonymous!) Dear Good Job, I am a nearly 50-year-old woman; however, when I was 15 to 18, I was raped and sexually abused by my boyfriend at that time. It was the 1990s. I was too scared to tell anyone, and I think anyone I would have told would have blamed me. I eventually extracted myself from that situation, moved, and started the life I have now, which has included a great deal of therapy. I never let myself search his name online for fear of upsetting myself. Until the news of the rape academy came out. I was upset and looked him up. He’s a hypnotherapist! When I finally left him, years ago, he was starting studies to learn how to hypnotize people because, as he said, he “wanted to know how to control people.” I feel sick.…