My family of 5 lives with my in-laws. The more I protected my own balance, the more I noticed the pressure on my husband. The author (not pictured) said it has been hard to strike a balance between setting boundaries and feeling like she is doing enough while living with her in-laws. miodrag ignjatovic/Getty Images I live in a three-generation household with my husband, our three children, and my in-laws. Like many women in multigenerational homes, I carry a lot — an endless array of responsibilities, or at least that's how it often feels. Household chores, children's schedules, routines, emotional needs, school concerns, and all the invisible things that somehow land on the woman of the house. But over the years, I learned something important: If I tried to carry everything, I would burn out. So, gradually, I drew certain boundaries. Not dramatic ones. Mostly quiet, mental ones.…