Care and Feeding She has to stop! Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by stu99/iStock/Getty Images Plus. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column.  Have a question for Care and Feeding?  Submit it here . Dear Care and Feeding, My husband and I have 2-year-old twins, which was a surprise because no one in our families had multiples. We’re so lucky that both of his parents are generous with babysitting time. They were a lifesaver for me, especially in the early newborn period after my husband had to go back to work. They did all the stuff I wished my parents would do: My mother-in-law would come over and help me take a bath while my father-in-law watched the kids, or he’d do our laundry while she watched the kids. They’d make our bed and set an alarm for me to nap while they watched the twins together, and they urged my husband and me to get out of the house and make time to be alone together, then helped facilitate it with child care.…