When I was recently visiting my best friend and her family in Dallas, her mom, Debbie, told me I needed to be dating “a Rolodex of men.” She wasn’t one of those moms just talking out the side of her neck with unwarranted advice—Debbie knew ball. Before meeting her now-husband of more than 30 years, she herself had been juggling four men when she bumped into Mitch while waiting in line at Lover’s Eggrolls. Immediately she knew she had met the one. The next week, she went ahead and broke things off with all four of her other bachelors and gained a boyfriend she’d go on to build a dream life with. As she told me all of this, my initial reaction was, Okay, Debbie, you queen, I wasn’t familiar with your game. But maybe her success—happily married for decades with two gorgeous daughters—was due to her approach to dating. A hopeless romantic and true lover girl at heart, I’ve always been the type to fall in love too quickly, becoming enamored with a fantasy I’d built in my head versus the actual person.…