A father of a child with autism sits across from me and declares, “She is too anxious. If she would just relax, the child would be fine.” A young boy tells me, with heartbreaking matter-of-factness, “My father has to hit my mother because she shouts so much.” A teacher is quick to conclude, “If only her mother would give her more time, she would not be depressed.” A grandmother whispers to me in a family therapy session, “Tell her to stop working and all problems will be solved.” Every time a child has a problem, we know who to point the finger at. After all, it’s always the mother’s fault. Step outside the therapy spaces and the same story is being played out in a loop. At home, when children do not behave as expected; in schools during PTMs, when the child has not reached the mark; in public spaces, when we spot a child throwing a tantrum. It’s always the mother’s fault. This is not a recent phenomenon; we have always found fault with mothers for generations.…