Care and Feeding Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by mmg1design/iStock/Getty Images Plus.  Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column.  Have a question for Care and Feeding?  Submit it here . Dear Care and Feeding, My wife and I have a 5-year-old son, “Archer,” whom I will admit can be a handful at times. Last month, we attended my sister’s wedding, and Archer ran in front of the staff members who were bringing out the wedding cake, causing them to drop it. We paid for the cost of the cake. But now, not only my sister, but pretty much all of our extended family have banned Archer from their events until he is older. Isn’t that an overreaction to a kid acting like a normal 5-year-old? —Accidents Happen Dear Accidents Happen,  Free Archer! I’ll admit: The thought of your little man causing such a ruckus, knocking over an elaborate wedding cake like a tiny Mr. Bean, brings me great joy.…