1. "Hmmm. Well, with women, things tend to be softer. Even when we are feeling primal and needy, it tends to be softer, from a desire to please one another. Even in the darkest depths of kink, there is a tenderness with women that is addicting. There is an excitement of the heart, and the body follows. It feels so natural and correct and liberating. Sharing a sense of worship for one another is a level of vulnerability I can't fully put into words without getting abstractly poetic. It makes me feel wanted, loved, seen, witnessed. With men, it has felt like that need is dialed up to 11, this is good and bad, it makes sex less intimate, but it's also a very different sort of fun. Even when men are gentle it feels "firmer" I guess. Instead of tender strokes and touches, it's holds that help me feel secure, grounded, safe." —  jphigg2 "This pretty much nails it. I've been told by a few partners that I have sex like a woman, and that's sort of what I'm after in bed as well.…