This post just reconciled its feelings 🫶 Updated November 12, 2025 Before I ever had “money relationship goals,” I had a fun-size Snickers in my hand and a single tear rolling down my cheek. I was parked at the bottom of my staircase, overwhelmed by my finances and feeling stuck. My then-boyfriend (now husband) asked where I was going, and I told him I was about to march upstairs and take a live workshop from a company called YNAB. “Why?” he asked. “Because I have no idea where my money’s going… and I’m too scared to look.” Climbing those stairs marked the beginning of something much bigger than I expected. That workshop—led by a calm, encouraging voice that made everything feel possible—was the start of a completely new relationship with money. One grounded in clarity, collaboration, and a little thing we like to call spendfulness . Since then, we’ve done a bunch of adulting things: got married, bought a house, and yes, we now enjoy enough abundance to own a self-cleaning litter box.…