You know this person. You live with this person. So why do you sometimes feel like you’re watching a stranger? Press enter or click to view image in full size Fourteen years of marriage taught me more about human behaviour than any textbook ever could. Not all of it was pretty. Most of it was necessary. Photo and text by Alek Martin You’re sitting at dinner with friends. Your partner is talking. Laughing. Sharing opinions. Full of energy. Telling stories you’ve never heard. Taking up space in a way that feels almost foreign to you. And somewhere inside you a quiet thought forms. Who is this person? You know the answer. You’ve known it for a while. But tonight something shifts and you can’t un-see it. What you’re actually watching The most obvious explanation is narcissism. And maybe that’s part of it. But in my experience — and in my own marriage — it’s rarely that simple. My husband has severe ADHD. And what looks like narcissism on the surface is actually something else entirely.…